Anyway, I think I might have said something wrongly too. Hope you won't mind. But leh, I'm quite forgetful also geh...
Oh ya!!! Finally remembered... Story about doing what's right!
I'm quite sure being parents are just plain difficult. In fact, difficult is an understatement. Sometimes, how can you tell which is the better way in handling your kid's wrongdoing?
If your kid get into trouble, what is it that you should do?
A) You love your kid, you wouldn't want your kid to be in trouble, thus trying every single way to get your kid out of trouble.
B) You let your kid suffer the consequences, and let your kid be punished.
Chances are, most of the parents would go for option A. But did you think about what are the consequences of choosing either one? I shall explain below.
A) Your kid will most probably not learn the mistake made, cause there's always someone to get them out of trouble, and they are prone to make the same mistake again. After all, you'll be there!
B) Your kid might learn something from that mistake, but will most probably hate you for the rest of his life.
As you can see, somehow it'll end up with everyone choosing A after seeing what might possibly happen. But think again... Have you really give a thought to your kid's future?
A) As your kid will repeat the same mistake over and over again, you could only help for that many times, and one day, you too will be out of ways to help. And by that time, it'll be a little too late to do anything. Because nothing changes from that day onwards. Your kid being too dependent, and you being helpless. Your kid will get into troubles that you just can't solve.
B) As much as your kid will hate you, you can only hope that they'll grow up to understand why you did what you do. Because the ultimate goal is to let your kid learn from their own mistakes, and certainly no one will clean up their messes. Because in life, only they themselves could help themselves. You trade in your closeness/bond with your kid in exchange for them to understand this, thus helping them to grow wiser, and not make the same mistake even when you are gone.
I know I might sound a little cold blooded, but I'll choose B. Cause I see what's ultimately good for the kid. And I know the fact that no one can save your ass unless you yourself.
So, what would you choose?
(P/s: The situation above was totally based on assumption and no proof at all)
